[jdk21u-dev] RFR: 8301686: TLS 1.3 handshake fails if server_name doesn't match resuming session

[Martin Doerr]

Clean backport of [JDK-8301686](https://bugs.openjdk.org/browse/JDK-8301686).

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Commit messages:
 - Backport 0259da92831087e918d00b8a83e04c96a6877f41

Changes: https://git.openjdk.org/jdk21u-dev/pull/731/files
  Webrev: https://webrevs.openjdk.org/?repo=jdk21u-dev&pr=731&range=00
  Issue: https://bugs.openjdk.org/browse/JDK-8301686
  Stats: 253 lines in 2 files changed: 252 ins; 0 del; 1 mod
  Patch: https://git.openjdk.org/jdk21u-dev/pull/731.diff
  Fetch: git fetch https://git.openjdk.org/jdk21u-dev.git pull/731/head:pull/731

PR: https://git.openjdk.org/jdk21u-dev/pull/731